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Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
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RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
(11-05-2017, 08:01 PM)Kryogen Wrote: I am so terribly ashamed of putting a cpap on that I only do it after turning the lights off. I even try to sleep the whole night turned the other way so she doesn't see me.

How do you guys/girls feel about using the cpap and your partner seeing you?

She says that she doesn't care, that when she sleeps she isn't looking at me anyway, and she much prefers me during the day if I'm not a zombie all day. 
And she is kind of right, but still, I feel like crap putting that mask on my face at night, I feel like a cripple.

There is no need to what so ever, it is just how you feel, trust me, they think nothing of it.
Even others think nothing of it when I stayed with others, so don't worry yourself about it, the only person that thinks anything of it is yourself.
I know it is easy to think you are some sort of freak using CPAP at night, but there is so many people use it these days it might just surprise you.
At my last visit to the hospital the nurse said she and another two nurses were so busy they couldn't see everyone every year.
In the old days when machines were very noisy it was a bit of a problem, but these days they are very quiet.
She say she is not bother about you using CPAP, so why are you so bothered?
I bet she would rather you using CPAP than snoring and having to worry about you stopping breathing.
So stop worrying about it, life is to short for that!   Smile
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#32
RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
(11-07-2017, 01:23 PM)zzzZorro Wrote: But just think how proud of you she will be when a nightime home invader runs away screaming after YOU have confronted him in full-mask regalia snorting thru the air hose you are dragging behind .. Big Grinnie

With my glock 17 Tongue
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#33
RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
Lol ... she seems to love you so just let it go on your end! She would rather have you alive and breathing correctly at night! I never ever thought about this with my wife. She would not let me go a night without my mask or machine on at night! Obtw ... she uses a CPAP now! Lol
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#34
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I had to laugh when I masked up yesterday - my husband spontaneously said, "You know what I like about your cpap? You always put your hair in a ponytail when you wear it. You look so cute in a ponytail!"

Made me think of your thread. Of course we've been married a good deal longer than you. We're old enough to be your parents. Smile
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RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
(11-08-2017, 07:12 PM)kiwii Wrote: I had to laugh when I masked up yesterday - my husband spontaneously said, "You know what I like about your cpap? You always put your hair in a ponytail when you wear it. You look so cute in a ponytail!"

Made me think of your thread. Of course we've been married a good deal longer than you. We're old enough to be your parents. Smile

I think he may telling you to wear a pony tail more often.  Laugh-a-lot
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RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
Ponytails are 'special' and kept for the bedroom. You really don't want to flaunt it or it loses it's appeal and look cheap.  Dielaughing
mask fit http://www.apneaboard.com/wiki/index.php...ask_Primer
For auto-cpap, from machine data or software. You can set the min pressure 1 or 2cm below 95%. Or clinicians commonly use the maximum or 95% pressure for fixed pressure CPAP, this can also be used for min pressure.
https://aasm.org/resources/practiceparam...rating.pdf
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RE: Ashamed of needing a cpap, don't want wife to see me.
I think you guys are onto something! Thinking-about 

Kryogen - I saw a celebrity talking about feeling the same way that you were. She got over it when her spouse filmed her sleeping and she got to see herself stop breathing. That would sure be sobering!
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