Married couples are teams. Supposedly. Each contributes to the marriage. So one has read up on apnea treatments, xPAP adjustments and knows how to read sleepyhead. The other does his own things, like (stereotyping here) swapping the winter tires, checking the furnace, mowing the lawn, etc. My husb and I bring different perspectives to solving a problem. But if one of us is not interested in looking at the problem, the other will work on it regardless.
So take the card, make a second profile in Sleepyhead, and see what his apnea is doing and how things are going. Then you can make helpful suggestions like: "You were leaking a lot between 2 and 4 am dear. Need a strap adjustment?" Or "Happy Birthday, I got you a P-10!" Or, "Wow, you snored even through your mask last night. And the past 15 as well. Let's call the doc for a check on that."
trailrider was my take also with the proviso if he is malignant-stubborn don't do it.
If he is not malignant-stubborn when presented with fait accompli hopefully he will accept with grace. If OP has a history of nagging all bets are off.
I think the root of this is based in what we are.
Women (as a group) see this as being helpful and nurturing and do not understand a man's reluctance.
Men (as a group) see this as meddling and mothering and bossing and rebel - even if you pin them down and they admit wife is correct.
I use my PAP machine nightly and I feel great!
Updated: Philips Respironics System One (60 Series)
RemStar BiPAP Auto with Bi-FlexModel 760P -
Rise Time x3 Fixed Bi-Level EPAP 9.0 IPAP 11.5 (cmH2O)
06-06-2015, 01:52 PM
(This post was last modified: 06-06-2015, 01:52 PM by retired_guy.)
It really doesn't have all that much to do with being a boy or a girl. Some women are better at "being helpful/meddling, nurturing/bossing" than others. And that's pretty much true for guys as well. So you take two people, of same or opposite sex, and put them together. Each couple and each person in the coupling work out the dynamics that will constitute this particular dance for their relationship.
Sometimes it's easy.
In my case it's very simple. I have the complete freedom to do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it to whomever that might be. Unless of course Mrs. R_G gives me "the look." Then of course I have the freedom to change my mind.