(02-27-2015, 09:11 PM)Hilobarbie Wrote:(02-27-2015, 08:50 PM)me50 Wrote:(02-27-2015, 08:39 PM)Hilobarbie Wrote: Thanks Me50. Sorry you too had to have the experience. Worst hurt ever.
they are supposed to outlive us so yea, quite a shocker. not long after losing our child, my brother died (2nd one that died). quite a bit of loss but I have learned through all of this that there are many that have it worse than we do.
The only way to understand this type of pain is to have experienced it. Similar circumstance for me. My father died the month before and my company transferred me from Hawaii to Houston three days before my son died. I know it sounds cliche, but being painfully aware that so many more have suffered so much worse is the comfort I've found too. That and the knowledge that only a parent who has lost a child can truly understand the pain of another parent who has lost a child.
I am not comforted that my friends have experienced worse pain than we have but, it sure makes me realize and puts things in perspective that even though our losses have been great, that there are far worse out there.
I know when our child was in the hospital, there were 2 teenage children brought in that had been in a serious car accident, a brother and a sister and one of them had a broken back. I don't know what the outcome was, but I just can't imagine what those parents went through. there was a man that was traveling through town and was in the hospital to because he had complications from diabetes and was having his other leg amputated (as you can probably guess, one had already been amputated). we have a friend that lost 3 family members to murder along with 2 other people (5 people murdered at the same time) and our friend lost a child and 2 grandchildren in that murder spree. That is what I mean by others having it worse.
I also believe that all losses are traumatic but I also feel that sometimes, the way our loved ones died adds to the trauma if you know what I am saying.
What a difference between Hawaii and Houston! How did you end up where you are now?
I better be quiet now so we can get back on topic. I don't want a black mark by my name lol